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Couple Therapy offers you the chance to
find out how to prioritise your relationships, work commitment,
children, friends, and family.
By carefully examining your relationships, you can learn how to face
the issues that come along with the joys and your attempts to fulfil
your dreams.
Pre-marital consultations
Marriage (or any long-term relationship commitment) can be a most
rewarding journey. How to build a secure footing for this critical
aspect of your life is not usually part of anyone's education. Even
living with another person in a share house environment can threaten
relationships. Imagine what happens when that person you are having
difficulties with is you most intimate partner!
Being aware (mindful) of things that can make a difference to
successfully negotiating partnership transitions (from dating to
lovers to partners to husband and wife or de-facto partners) can make
the journey a joy, even if "challenging."
A critical part of couple counselling or coaching is establishing each
partner's own self-esteem. A strong foundation for building a
partnership comes from the strength of each person. Needy or
co-dependant relationships have difficulties because the relationship
is more about what is holding each partner up rather than what the
partners are doing to support the relationship.
Couple Therapy offers couples support and counsel within a climate of
individual coaching to engender a spirit of enquiry to bring about a
raft of strategies that you can take away with you and use for the
rest of your life. These are not new ideas but ideas that will make a
huge difference if you are willing to explore them.
You will explore your expectations and your core values. Are you
looking for the same or similar things? It is surprising the number of
times couples discover after many years in a relationship their
partner holds vastly different political or social views.
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How many times do you
say yes just to keep the peace, or just to keep your partner
interested in you?
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Are your
personalities matching or contradicting each other? People who like to
laze around on the weekends are not going to like going to parties or
entertaining at home all the time. Find out now what each of you want
and your lives will be much more fulfilled after your commitment
ceremony.
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What aspects of your
family background can give you clues to how you will be in a
relationship? The expression the crowded bed" refers to how much our
mothers and fathers (and sometimes our grandparents or siblings)
influence our daily relationships.
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What buttons does
your partner push?
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Are you ignoring them
in these early stages of your relationship just to keep the peace?
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Does this impact
further down the line? What can you do to make this less impact?
Other areas discussed in relationship counselling include:
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How to resolve
conflict
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How alcohol and other
drugs rate in coping with stress in partnerships
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What to do when your
friends have children and you do not
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What happens if you
can not have children
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What about when your
children arrive in your life
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What can you do when
financial commitments engulf your intimacy
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How to live with
jealousy over old boyfriends or girlfriends
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What to do if one of
you gets sick
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