More Relationship Hints

Relationships — a most important part of your life.

Of all your relationships, your commitment to your intimate partner is probably one of the most important aspects of your life... Or is it? Finding out the answer to this can change your attitudes toward your relationship.

Here are some ideas to help you find out how to prioritise your relationship, work commitment, children, friends, and family.

By carefully examining your relationships, you can learn how to face the issues that come along with the joys and your attempts to fulfil your dreams.

Several areas will be discussed in the therapy sessions, which are viewed as a collaborative endeavour... including

where do "we" focus our attention toward change... by finding out what are the issues, what is happening
"we" will endeavour to discover what you think is healthy functioning in your relationship and what you think is the end goal of the therapy
"we" will uncover the things you will need to do in order to gravitate toward a healthier relationship.

...the one word that is often left out of couple and marriage therapy... LOVE...

The fostering and encouraging of loving, unconditional regard for the loved one is sometimes forgotten when problems emerge in our relationship.

It is as if we forget why we came together in the first place. Sometimes an uncontrollable sexual frenzy brings people together, and after a few months other aspects of the loved one's personality are seen. If these newly observed character traits are not acceptable, yet our need for attachment is greater than our need for a satisfying relationship, we will remain in the relationship in order to fulfil this "greater" need. This can lead to anxiety and frustration, old anger issues surfacing and a general discontentment, even depression.

If the relationship continues under these conditions, complicated by children, work pressures, financial commitments (generally undertaken with the desire to cement and shore-up the relationship) fissures and eruptions occur, leading to break-ups, separation, divorce and acrimony.